The Challenges of Writing a Menage
by Stacey Espino
My publisher, Siren-Bookstrand, is one of the leaders in ménage romance titles. So, I decided to challenge myself and step into the unknown.
Saving Grace was my first ménage, though not a true Ménage Amour. It has a HEA with only one man, but there are ménage elements (F,M,M,M,M) in the book. Yes, that was four M’s!
My next erotic western, Damaged Cowboys, is my first true ménage.
I wanted to discuss some of the challenges I faced writing this new and popular sub-genre of romance.
1.) Pro-noun hell! I mean, come on, you have eight hands pleasuring one woman at the same time. Four cowboys, four different sex acts…that’s a lot to keep track of. It’s a fine balancing act to describe a ménage sex scene.
2.) The alpha male issues. Cowboys should be dominant, hard, and know what they want…and take it. When you have several alpha males sharing one woman equally, it takes a lot of effort to pull that off convincingly. There’s the jealousy issue, crossing swords, dominance issues…a whole slew of things to sort out to make it work.
3.) Logistics. We don’t want anyone feeling uncomfortable in the relationship, so you have to tread carefully. Where is everyone going to sleep? Do they take turns being intimate, or share every time? How do they deal with the public perception of their taboo relationship? Personally, I found it easier to write my true ménage with brothers. The sibling love is already present; so many potential issues could be avoided.
4.) Can you really love more than one man? We have been so brainwashed to believe that only one man and one woman fall in love, and live happily ever after. Trying to show, or prove, that it’s possible to love more than one man equally, but differently, is a challenge. You really get an opportunity to explore an array of emotions when creating a ménage romance.
5.) Lube. Lots of lube.
I hope you’ll get a chance to pick up my newest release, SAVING GRACE, coming Wednesday, June 16th to Siren-Bookstrand.
Damaged Cowboys should be out early August, 2010.
Grace is thrust deep into cattle country with dozens of sex starved cowboys. Her modest, timid nature soon fizzles away to make room for her raging lust. From one night stands to a ménage a cinq, her body won’t allow her to refuse the muscled ranch hands that seem desperate to pleasure her.
Grace explores her sexuality and pushes her personal boundaries. She discovers the sensual woman that remained dormant during her adult years. It is the love of a good man that forces her to let down her guards. Can she commit after everything she has been through in the past? Will she accept the love she’s craved for a lifetime?